Another Problem

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...all the men on here will be the reason i have a future....

Ya got that right, pg.  I'm coming up on my first anniversary here at PP in a few days.  When I read my posts from back then, I see a guy confused, angry, sad, rejected and betrayed - just trying desperately to save his marriage like we all were.  It is only through the wise words from my brothers and sister here (and a little IC) that I find myself in a better place today.  PP really is a full service internet forum:  Come for the advice, stay for the dating tips!

[crushed]

Hi Guys,

As usual, outstanding comments in this thread - please know that I read each and every one multiple times in order to best digest the information.

Another session with the shrink today and the topic of discussion was cutting the last thread of hope for reconciliation with my Ex.  I told her my story and her comments were that my sentimentality and loyalty, ordinarily positive and admirable qualities, are now a huge hindrance to doing what I need to do.  In order to fully move on, it needs to happen, I need to cut that last thread of hope - but how?  Its so hard because I am so extremely sentimental and loyal - even after all that has happened.  Maybe that is a topic of discussion for my shrink on another day.  In terms of the topic at hand, however, my shrink suggested that I write a letter to my Ex about the fact that I have moved on and cut that thread and then burn the letter or something else but in a similar symbolic way.  How have any of you guys managed to cut that last thread and fully let go?

Crushed

[angel]

How have any of you guys managed to cut that last thread and fully let go?

Don't know, because I'm not there yet.

Consider buying a cheap ass puppet, write your name on it's chest, then cut every single one of the strings, and throw out or ceremoniously burn the part the puppeteer holds.  Keep the puppet's body as a token of freedom. 

A friend of mine had a bonfire with the wedding pictures--he said it was good therapy.

Another one left a big dump in the toilet after the D and right before she got the house (believe it or not, that came up in court, where the attorney questioned him on how big the turd was--surreal).