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« on: February 04, 2010, 12:26:52 PM » |
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I took my stbx to court Tuesday to establish temporary custody. We never got to the judge. She signed the custody over to me right away. It was a victory, but it makes me sad. She was more concerned about money issues than her children.
I made her pay this months child support before she left the courthouse.
This weekend is her first visitation. She is bringing my little girl home a day early because her lover is going to be at their house Saturday. Mom of the year! I can't believe she is putting that pompous ass above her own children.
Divorce was filed by her a couple of weeks ago, and she is already living in a renthouse with this dude. Man, that is hard to swallow.
At least I have the kids and she is paying child support. From what I understand, winning temporary custody is huge in having permanent custody once the divorce is final. I never thought I would be Mr. Mom, especially to girls ages 6 and 15. I have a lot on my plate, but I'm glad to have it.
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« Reply #1 on: February 04, 2010, 12:39:53 PM » |
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Wow. Congratulations.
I've said this many times before, but I think it is so unbelievable how a mother could abandon or hurt her children. It is contrary to nature. In your case, she is basically abandoning them to be with a POS.
MLC is a very evil beast.
Enjoy your daughters, and be the best dad possible, better than ever.
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Brixy
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« Reply #2 on: February 04, 2010, 12:48:22 PM » |
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Congrats on the court outcome Gary. Times like this really test you about what being a parent means. The WW's are so far off in la la land that being a proper parent isn't even on their radar. It's truly sad that when they're high on the OM they lose all perpsective and the kids, their own blood fall by the wayside. The bonds you're building w/ your girls now will last a lifetime.
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trying222
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« Reply #3 on: February 04, 2010, 12:49:52 PM » |
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Gary - it goes to the core of why you wouldn't wish this MLC monster on your worst enemy. Just one aside from me - my ex sat with her lover during my D18 high school graduation - 500 feet from me and D17 and friends. We all just shook our heads. When I moved out 2/08 and said I needed the kids half time, she couldn't have shoved them out the door quicker. More time to be with her out of state affair partner I guess.
These are hard times for families and marriages. I never thought I would be involved with so many broken marriages and families in my 40s. It is happening all around me and usually in the most sordid of ways. I know how unreal it is to you that this is now your life. Surreal, isn't it? Feels like a dream? I know.
And as sick, sad, and beaten as you are often going to feel, please understand that in time, normalcy will return to your life. Your STBX? Don't know. Don't care. But for you it will.
Glad you are here.
T22
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« Reply #4 on: February 04, 2010, 03:59:16 PM » |
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This is a huge "W" for your girls.
I wish my brother could have gotten custody. But she would have had to have been a "crack-smoking, drug-dealing whore" for the court to give him custody.
Now my SIL is looking for counseling for one of my nieces (FINALLY!) because she's kicking her siblings and being crabby. My SIL's e-mail, "I don't know if this has anything to do with the divorce, but..."
Wake up & smell the destruction in your kids, lady! You might think you're "being there" for them, but kids know the truth, and ACT OUT!
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« Reply #5 on: February 04, 2010, 05:19:13 PM » |
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We never got to the judge. She signed the custody over to me right away. It was a victory, but it makes me sad. She was more concerned about money issues than her children.
She is bringing my little girl home a day early because her lover is going to be at their house Saturday. Mom of the year! I can't believe she is putting that pompous ass above her own children.
Gary, I'm happy for you and your girls, but I have to think that somewhere above us, angels are crying. MLC is the most evil thing I have ever come across in my life. To put money ---and an adulterous scum bag--- above your own children is simply wrong. |
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« Reply #6 on: February 04, 2010, 08:08:59 PM » |
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But she would have had to have been a "crack-smoking, drug-dealing whore" for the court to give him custody.
Wake up & smell the destruction in your kids, lady! You might think you're "being there" for them, but kids know the truth, and ACT OUT!
Bystander you nailed it. I have documented so much damage that my W has done, and the courts just hate to ever take away kids from their mom. Well what about all of the things she is doing?  ?? Not social services, nor the CFI will investigate. They have their stereotypes all ready figured out. The father is just disgruntled and is willing to say anything to get the mother in trouble. Really? Why do the teachers and the children's therapist, and the day care workers all agree with the father? The judge caught my wife lying on the stand, and I still didn't win custody.....................yet! Gary you won the lottery in that decision. Things will fade away, break and be out-moded soon enough. But your children will live on and your family will succeed because you will take care of them. Well done. |
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jimbonolongerinlimbo
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« Reply #7 on: February 06, 2010, 10:36:54 PM » |
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Congrat Gary! You and I can give one another a high five. I received temporary full custody also. It gives us a great piece of mind, knowing are kids are safe and loved.
Like you, my stbx has chosen OM over her own flesh and blood! Sickening. She has one day visitation and she texts me today saying she has a work meeting tomorrow at 5 and for me to pick up the kids early. Yeah, lets see Superbowl Sunday and kickoff is 1 and a half hours away. Who the F'k has a meeting one hour before Superbowl kickoff. And btw she is a yoga instructor, must be some big meeting to want to blow off your kids. Liars, adulterers, cheaters. Boy do they need our prayers.
Keep up the good work Gary and do not give in.
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« Reply #8 on: February 07, 2010, 11:04:32 AM » |
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Umm... Jimbo .... she is going to watch the superbowl with her OM. There is no meeting. But you already knew that, didn't you? |
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« Reply #9 on: February 07, 2010, 12:24:22 PM » |
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I sure did Bystander. I am walking my talk as you said I should and she WILL be held accountable for her actions including her and OM pleading the 5th in their depositions. They will be right in front of the judge. She thinks she can do as she pleases, sorry, there are laws and a court room and the judge will know her well.
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« Reply #10 on: February 07, 2010, 04:12:37 PM » |
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There may be little/no justice in this world, jimbo, but there surely is in the next!  |
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« Reply #11 on: February 07, 2010, 05:58:09 PM » |
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you are right Bystander but I sure as hell am going to keep the fight going for justice while I am here in this earth. Acountability, acountability. She made her choices now it is my time.
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