Things we have learned along the way...

[Faithful Father]

Thought it might be a fun thread (and helpful for the newbies) to post some of the MLC-isms that we've learned along the way...  The subtle ones that might not make it in the sticky-posts...  Including:

1.  Protecting her purse?  She's got an affair phone.  OM = NM.  Game over.
2.  If she's offering up info about her where-abouts (without solicitation), she's lying.  OM = NM.  Game over.
3.  Notice a change in her language?  Using idioms, phrases or expressions that she's never used before?  These do not come from a vacuum.  OM = NM.
4.  Notice new facial expressions or physical mannerisms?  These do not come from a vacuum.  Toxic friends or OM = NM.

[Roger Wilco]

Adding new and unheadof music to the rotation...OM.

If she has old friends/new friends that it's somehow inappropriate for you to meet...toxic friends.

"I don't think I'd mind if you had an affair." = "I feel so freaking guilty.  Do something bad to justify my anger."

[praying]

FH,
All that you posted is sad...but very true.  I believe that Iwitnessed each of those.  New guys, I know that you don't want to believe that "this" could happen to you....but IT IS!  Trust me, the faster that you wrap your head around the idea that your once loving wife is now a cheating, vow breaking whore...the better off you will be.  Will she lie...hell yes.  Has she lied...hell yes.  I understand...really I do...you love her and you love your family.  But THAT WOMAN is taking a huge sex filled shit all over your marriage.  Now...listen to those who have been through it...those in recon and those divorced, but surviving the bullshit.  You can do it the way you've been told...or you can keep doing you same sorry shit that you've been doing and see how far that it get's you.  Before too many months YOU will be the ones on this site telling the newest batch of "new guys" the same stuff that you were first told...and begging them to listen.

[Faithful Father]

Roger's "new music" comment hits my alien right on the head... as is the "new world" of friends as well.  Both *spot*on*...

[Funny personal note: I inadvertently crashed one of her secret parties at a park last Saturday.  The alien's two worlds had just collided.  I was sure to sit just about as close to her as I could, and introduce myself to all her new friends as her "husband".  Not because I care, but just to screw with her head.]

Come to think of it--I've been reassured that I'm free to date or marry whoever I want... which is tantamount to Roger's "go and have yourself an affair." 

The commonalities between all of our experiences continues to both shock and intrigue me.  Way to many similarities for this *not* to be a distinct psychiatric / spiritual phenomenon. 

[Screaming01]

One of the first red flags I saw was her moving the her phone and charger from the window sil to her side of the bed. When that caught my eye I checked her text records and the history was erased all the time.

[Faithful Father]

My alien was never that smart...at first.  Her adultery might be one of the most or best documented affairs in quite some time.  Only NOW is she trying to clean her tracks.  It's comical, actually.

Come to think of it...the skype phone had a dead battery a few times when I came home from work.  Forget the kids; let them fend for themselves...the OM is on skype!