MIDLIFE for Dummies

[larry50]

This is almost insane how true this stuff is. Seems almost like my wife has studied this thouroughly!

[Feel So Grateful]

This is almost insane how true this stuff is. Seems almost like my wife has studied this thouroughly!

Not only your wife, all our wives did.

[Tim]

I have been married 24 years next month. Last july, after  23 plus years of a very trusting marriage, I became suspiuos of some things my wife was doing. She began erasing her text messages, texting a woman 700 times in 10 days and going to the restroom at resturants were we were eating to text this woman. I approached her about it and she stated that they were only friends. Six weeks later she confessed to me that she had become very close to this woman and had been meeting her at her house after the other womans husband left for work in the morning. She admitted to kissing the woman on several occasions and stated to me that she had impure thoughts during the kissing and had committed adultery. Since that time, she has not seen our 20 year old son in over five months. She would have fought a bear for her son before this. She had a partial hysterectomy last June. I do not know if this could have contributed to her crisis or not. She is 44 and we were just about to become empty nesters as our youngest son leaves for college this fall. I am at a loss as to what to do. I do not think that she is a lesbian. I would  love to reconcile with her but we are on the verge of our divorce being final.

[pghobbsx]

Tim,
you should post your story in the introduce yourself section. there are plenty of stories in this forum about the OM actually being an OW. nothing out of the ordinary for MLC. sorry to see you here, but you are among friends.

pghobbsx

[Kez]

Tim, hi , you're here so that means you have a lot of resources, hope you've used them.  One of those resources is about the grief cycle, one stage of which is 'denial'.  That's where you are now brother she's kissing another woman and having 'impure' thoughts, maybe she's not a lesbian, maybe she's bisexual   Pick yourself up and make a new plan, she is gone, for now at least.  Could be a long time, are you going to stand and wait or move on?